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Tips 19 & 20 – 28 Days of Reducing Distractions

Tip 19 – Tell the distractors that you need time to concentrate.

Whether it is your kids, your spouse, your mom or your co-workers – inform those around you that you need to work on whatever it is with no distractions.


Tip 20 – Find them something to do.

If you’re going to do Tip #19 – depending on the person, you might have to find them something else to do so they will be distracted from distracting you.


Never, never be afraid to do what’s right, especially if the well-being of a person or animal is at stake. Society’s punishments are small compared to the wounds we inflict on our soul when we look the other way.”  ~Martin Luther King Jr.

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Tips 8 & 9 – 28 Days of Reducing Distractions

28 Days of Reducing Distractions – Tips 8 & 9

Tip 8 – Workout in the morning.  

We’ve all heard that people who workout in the mornings are more apt to keep up with their fitness routines than those who put it off until later in the day.  An added bonus of working out in the morning to “getting it over with” is – you also don’t have to think about it all day long.  No more “oh, I need to workout tonight”.  It’s over and done with, you clear your head and that is once less thing to think about all day long.

Another good reason to workout in the mornings....

Another good reason to workout in the mornings….

Tip 9 – Unsubscribe

I’ve been doing this over the last few months.  I’ll admit, it has been tedious and annoying at times, but unsubscribing to unwanted emails has helped clear my inbox from all the useless clutter.  Whether you intentionally subscribed to a newsletter and are just no longer interested or if you were put on a list – you won’t hurt anyone’s feelings if you opt out.  And opening up your inbox to less emails to read is really a nice feeling.

*Sidebar – – I hope I’m not one of those email in which you unsubscribe however (no pressure!)   =)



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Days 6 & 7 – 28 Days – Reducing Distractions

The irony is not lost on me that I literally got too distracted with life and other stuff to actually write on how to reduce distractions.

Here’s what happened – I’ve been suffering from a dull headache for the last few days, nothing too bad – just, well…distracting.  Advil and water didn’t help, sleep only postponed it until I was awake again.  Allergies?  No.

Then it occurred to me….I haven’t changed out my contacts in a while.   (I replace my contacts every couple of weeks).

And that did it!  Which brings me to Tips 6 & 7 of the 28 Days of Reducing Distractions

#6 – Take your medicine. 

There is a difference between getting a cold or the flu or a having a serious illness. But if you suffer from headaches, or allergies or muscle pain from exercise – – keep your everyday medication handy and keep on top of them.  Don’t let the pain and suffering get so bad that you can’t function.

dont panic


#7 – Take care of yourself first.  AKA – put your breathing mask on first.  

You know how they tell you to do this on an airplane.  I get it!  You can’t help others when you’re plagued by distractions of your own.  Eat on a regular schedule, take your vitamins and drink plenty of water and get good rest.  Only when you’re taken care of can  you take care of others.



It’s more about distractions….

Happy New Year!

So it’s day six in the year 2014 and I’m six days into my No Wal-Mart and No Yelling resolutions.  I have to admit – – so far – so good!

I’ve not once been to Wal-Mart although there was an occasion on Friday when I was right next to Wal-Mart but remembered my personal goal and diverted to a local grocery store instead.  That was easy.  I don’t really see this one being a hard one, it’s mostly just getting out of the habit.

The no yelling portion is going well also.  My patience was even tested one night with my boys refusing to listen to me and would not get ready for bed.  After six or seven times of saying “it’s time to get ready for bed” and them ignoring me, I finally told them  that I was getting upset and I didn’t want to yell – so they had better get moving.  It sort of worked, it still took a few more attempts to get them motivated and it was tempting to raise my voice.  Alas – I prevailed and held my cool.

One tip my friend Sally suggested was to come up with a code word.  Something that anyone can say and once it is said – everyone stops what they are doing and listens to what is being said.  I have to admit, my first thought of this was “oh – like a safe word in S&M?”  (Jeez, Amy – read 50 Shades of Grey much?)  (Not really, I hated those books…..I digress).

I’ve been thinking of a good word to use on these occasions.  Of course when I mentioned the idea to my boys their suggestions were “chupacabra” or “butt”  – – remember they are nine and five and little boys love to say and giggle non-stop at any mention of the word “butt” or any combination or similar word.  I don’t get little boys.

I don’t want a word that is necessarily funny, I want something that will get their attention yet not annoy me.  We’re working on this part.  I’ll keep you posted when we agree on our word.

My friend Sally also sent me this article, The Important Thing About Yelling.  I, in turn, had other friends post it on Facebook.   The timing of the article was ironic and the fact that a few of my friends shared it  made me think that when they read the article, it resonated with them on some level too.

That’s because the author is spot on!  My situation isn’t exactly like hers – but I know exactly what she is saying.  I’ve seen the fear in my sons’ eyes, I seen their eyes water up with tears, I’ve seen them withdraw  – – all because of me.  And my yelling.  I have to say again, I’m sharing this with you – but it is hard.  And I’m so ashamed….

But another thing the author mentions is – distractions.  100% of the time that I’ve yelled at my husband or my sons is because I was distracted.  Sure – sometimes they are just not doing what I’ve asked of them – – yet my reaction to their non-compliance is because I’ve been distracted with something else and annoyed that they aren’t doing what I’ve asked.  So, in a sense, my reaction in yelling – is my frustration with too much going on in my head.  Maybe I’m tired, maybe I’m hungry, maybe, like the author, I’m distracted with something else on another level – – – it doesn’t matter.  It’s the distractions that leads to yelling.

So – the non-yelling thing isn’t just about not yelling.  It’s about taking control of other influence in my life and learning to leave those at bay while I’m dealing with another situation.  It’s going to be hard but it’s a life change I need to make.

I wonder if we cut out distractions in our lives, how will that improve other interactions?

For 2014 – I’m introducing my 28 day series.  Each month and for 28 days I’ll share a tip on a topic of the month.  I know by my implementing short and easy changes to my daily routines, I will see improvements.  This is an exercise for me that I’m sharing with you and I hope you find some value in it too.  I’d love to hear your thoughts along the way.

One way to make sure you keep in touch with each daily tip is to subscribe to my blog (see the button on the right?) or like me on Facebook.  Up and onward – – stay tuned for the 1st day of the 28 day series on reducing distractions.

Happy Monday!  Happy New Year!