I just want to make it clear – – this is not about blasting another mother. But I wanted to share and give you my view-point on this….
A couple of weeks ago, my son came home with this note:
I will admit, at first I was taken aback and a little irked by this note. I felt immediately sorry for M. I even had to ask my son who M was. Because there was no address or other information, I didn’t realize it was our new neighbors who had just moved in about two weeks prior.
I thought about this note for a very long time, it haunted me. But after awhile, it finally hit me. And I immediately felt sorry for the mom.
The society that we live in these days put a lot of pressure on us. I think moms are harder on other moms, especially if we don’t know them very well. I think we personally put too much pressure on ourselves.
Here is what I know about M’s situation. They had just moved into a home in our neighborhood two weeks prior. M is in the first grade. He has a three-year old little sister and an eight month old little brother.
So the line about “I can’t find the invites” was probably right on! I’m sure her house was a mess and very unsettled at the moment.
Yet she still felt so much pressure to throw a party for her son.
I wish I was a closer friend to her or I wish she had hired me as a time-management consultant, because the first thing I would have said to her was “M’s party is going to have to wait.”
Why is it that we put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect? Why do we put up this front that “I can do it” and then kill ourselves trying?
I truly believe it would have been totally OK for M to have his party a month late. I think it is OK to share with M something along the lines of “life has interrupted the normal routine and your special day will still be very special, it’s just going to be on another day this year.”
Please Ladies, fellow moms, friends….let’s stop doing this to ourselves and to each other.
What do you think? I’d love to know!